Self-Care: Do It!

“Stress” is a word that we hear a lot. It is caused by numerous and seemingly endless events, both good and bad: an impending deadline at work, bills arriving in the mail, high school graduation, starting a new job, ect. Additionally, stress can be caused by demands we place on ourselves whether they are real or only perceived. Stress, then, can be lurking behind any phone call, letter, text, e-mail, or thought. So, now what?

First, let’s understand what stress really is: “Stress is an imbalance between your current coping abilities and the expectations or demands placed on you (Mager)…” Stress, therefore, is the pressure we feel that has not been attended to by the things we do to manage it. Managing this stress can feel like a luxury we do not always have time for. We have things to do, people who count on us. We belittle the self-care needed to manage stress thinking that it is selfish to take the time to do it. Plus, who has the extra time? However, if I told you that stress makes you more likely to become ill, have emotional imbalance or disease, and can exacerbate current or cause medical conditions like cancer, heart disease, and hypertension, do you still think of self-care as an indulgence? What if you knew that it can start you on the path of the overuse of drugs and/or alcohol, or cause relapse for those who are in recovery? These are just a few of the effects stress can have on your body and mind.

By this paragraph, I hope you have invested in the importance and need for self-care. In order to reduce stress, you need to self-calm (a.k.a. help yourself relax). Perhaps the most popular is deep breathing. Take five deep breaths and relax the muscles you are unconsciously clenching. This is easy to do and takes very little time. There are many options for practicing self-calm that have varied time commitments and skill levels: walking, meditation, yoga, talking to a friend, intentional breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, getting a drink of water. Experiment with what your interests are and how much time you are able to carve out.

Aside from self-calming activities, it is also important to self-care through how you are managing your days. Know your limits and only take on what you are capable of handling (learn how to say “no”). Get the amount of sleep YOU need (forget the adage that everyone needs eight hours; figure out what you best function on). Eat what makes your body feel good (that is, food that provides needed energy, and I’m not talking about energy drinks). Decompress throughout the day (see those ideas we talked about above). Do things you enjoy (read a book, have dinner with a friend). Get to know yourself (figure out what makes you stressed and the best ways to make yourself feel better).

Heart and Solutions can help you on your self-care destressing journey through our three services: mental health therapy, behavioral health intervention services (BHIS), and marriage and family therapy. Through these three avenues, we can help you build up your coping skill arsenal and help you identify the stressors in your life, understand how stress is affecting your body and mind, and how to create the balance for a more self-cared for life.

Self-care is not for the rich or for those with loads of free time. It is vital to everyone’s wellbeing, and can be done through simple exercises throughout your day, so do it! Nothing is more important than your mental health!

 

References

Baratta, M. (5/27/2018). Self Care 101. Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/skinny-revisited/201805/self-care-101

Mager, D. (8/29/2017). What you need to know about stress and self-care. Psychology Today.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/some-assembly-required/201708/what-you-need-know-about-stress-and-self-care

Mental Health Support Can Create Safe Classrooms

Many of us have heard of it, if not seen it. It sometimes comes along with the unhelpful and unwitting tagline used across generations: “These kids today.” In 2018, the Oregon Education Association (OEA) held 14 forums across the state asking parents, educators, and community leaders for their experiences and ideas on addressing disruptions in the classroom. Students and educators have the right to a safe learning and working environment. However, the stories of extreme behavior in Oregon classrooms have been growing over the past few years. Educators worry about being able to create and maintain a safe environment let alone one where students feel welcome and ready to learn. Additionally, students have needs that are not being met.

A disrupted learning environment is one where being able to maintain student safety and a stable classroom is significantly interfered with by student behavior. It looks like verbal and/or physical abuse, throwing objects and other weaponizing of classroom items, and/or the destruction of property. Educators named several reasons they believed such behavior is happening including disinvestment in the state’s schools; large class sizes; limited counselors, educational assistants, and special education teachers; and no resources for students with a need for special education or for those with high needs.

After the analysis of the data gathered from the forums, OEA recommended actions within three areas. At the forefront of these is increasing mental health support for students in the schools. The other two areas are smaller class sizes and manageable caseloads for support personnel (school counselors, psychologists, nurses, as well as social workers) and providing funded ongoing professional development that targets behavior and the cause of the behavior that leads to a disrupted classroom.

The mental health support, given as the first area to be addressed, should be provided both in the school and through partnerships in the community. Though counseling staff does exist, their duties are spread thin amongst other job duties including scheduling, testing, and college and career counseling. More staff is needed onsite to address specific school and student needs such as mental health counselors, behavior specialists, school psychologists, school nurses, social workers, physical and occupational therapists, speech language pathologists, and staff with knowledge in trauma, behavior, and mental health. Though the OEA does stress having such support staff onsite, as equally important is a line to the additional support programs and services in the community. This can be done by bringing such support to the school or having a line of communication between the school and the programs within the community. Having adequate staff to address the mental health needs of students is the first line in developing a safe classroom.

Heart and Solutions supports multiple communities in Iowa including Cedar Rapids, Grundy Center, Jefferson, Ames, Waterloo, and Marion. Our staff of therapists and behavioral health intervention service (BHIS) providers work with school counselors to identify those in need of mental health services, and can meet with individual students onsite at the school and in their homes. We believe nothing is more important than your mental health, and we support our schools and communities in providing a safe learning environment for all students, educators, and support staff.

Reference

Oregon Education Association. January 2019. A Crisis of Disrupted Learning: Conditions in Our Schools and Recommended Solutions.